If you think that sexual infidelity is the leading cause of divorce, you’ve got it all wrong. I have taken my time to study and solved some marriage issues, the top reasons married couples decide to split, and believe it or not communication problems came out on top as the number one reason marriages fail. Here are some other culprits i blame for the high divorce rate..
1. PARENTING (PARENT HOOD ) .—
Just as many couples “forget” their single friends and single ways when they get married, when you add children into the mix, most parents soon neglect or completely forget that they are a couple.
As children grow and need less attention, many husbands and wives find that they have grown apart and they can’t remember why they ever got married in the first place because they no longer have anything in common.
2. Inability to resolve conflicts.
Every couple has disagreements. The key is to develop ground rules so that each partner feels respected and heard. Sometimes it takes a third party “relationship coaches or therapist” to help define those rules and teach us to move through the charged emotions so bitterness don’t continue.. Most times i advice people to meet a marriage counselor for to lead them through
3. Money issues (finances )
It’s not usually the lack of finances that causes the divorce, but the lack of compatibility in the financial arena.
Opposites can attract but when two people are opposites in the financial department, divorce often happens. Imagine the conflict if one is a saver and one is a spender. One is focused on the future while the other believes in living for today One has no problem buying on credit,while the other believes in saving up for what one wants.
Over time, this conflict can reach such heights that divorce seems to be the only solution.
4. Trust issues and infidelity –Infidelity. Extramarital affairs have ended many marriages. Infidelity doesn’t have to just take place face to face with the presence of social media platforms, it can take place via Facebook, text messages,WhatsApp, Instagram , dating sites and many other ways. The reasons why a partner might cheat are personal to each couple, but for many, infidelity is the biggest betrayal a person can face, and it may be the closing chapter on a relationship.
In addition —communication is the foundation of a strong marriage.
Nagging and yelling at your partner , not talking enough throughout the day, making nasty comments to express yourself are all bad methods of communication that need to be thrown away in a marriage.
Poor communication is one of the biggest reasons for divorce and failed marriages.